You’ve matched - great! Now what? We spoke to Chyrpe users across the board to understand what makes texting actually work. Whether you're new to dating apps or just want to improve your approach, this guide will help you get off on the right foot.
Let’s get into it.
Start with Respect
The foundation of good texting is simple: respect. Whether you're messaging someone for the first time or continuing a conversation, treating the other person with kindness and consideration sets the tone.
Use their name, respond thoughtfully, and avoid making comments that might come off as rude or invasive. If you’re not sure how a message might be received, it’s usually better to hold off or rephrase it. A respectful tone builds trust, and trust leads to better connections.
Be Creative, Not Generic
“Hey” is okay, but it’s not going to stand out.
If you’re trying to catch someone’s interest, showing a bit of creativity can go a long way. Mention something from their profile, react to one of their photos, or ask a question that actually invites a fun reply. Chyrpe gives you a lot to work with, so use it.
Example: “I saw you’ve been to Iceland — did you love it as much as it looks like you did?”
That kind of message beats small talk every time.
Keep the Doubts to Yourself
It might be tempting to share your worries right away, maybe you're nervous about dating, or not sure you're interesting enough. But here's the truth: leading with self-doubt rarely works. It can put pressure on the other person to reassure you or make the conversation feel heavy too early on.
Confidence doesn’t mean pretending, it just means showing up as someone who believes they’re worth getting to know. And you are.
Kinks Can Wait
We’re all for open communication, but timing matters. Unless you’re both clearly comfortable and the topic comes up naturally, it’s best to keep kink or sexual topics out of the early conversations.
Chyrpe has a dedicated section for preferences, use that, and let the rest unfold when it makes sense for both of you. Respecting boundaries is not just the right thing to do — it’s also attractive.
Great texting isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being real, respectful, and thoughtful. If you show interest, avoid rushing things, and make the other person feel heard, you’re already doing better than most.
You matched for a reason, now take the time to let something meaningful grow.
You’ve got this.
