If you’ve ever dipped your toes into femdom dating or tried connecting with submissive men online, you’ll know how quickly conversations can shift from small talk to deep conversation. My own experience on Chyrpe, the dating app for female-led relationships and bdsm-friendly matches, proved exactly that.
“Would you please be so kind to peg me?”, said the young man sitting across me at a busy café. I had met Raphael, we’re calling him Raphael because I want to make a biblical reference and feel smart about it, two weeks earlier on Chyrpe, the dating app designed for femdom relationships, submissive men and anyone looking for a female-led dynamic. But let me start at the beginning.
The people Chyrpe attracts
I had started my Chyrpe account only recently and after having optimized my profile I started getting my first handful of mutual likes. An ambitious man from Shenzhen, China. A dreamy statistician from India that had just arrived at my city. Or a proud Spaniard. All polite, all interesting, but the conversations faded. Since Chyrpe attracts people who prefer clear communication and intentional dating, I wondered whether I, as the supposed leader, wasn’t giving enough direction. So I decided the next time I matched with someone, I’d take the initiative immediately.
Raphael’s profile was aesthetic. He included pictures of himself at concerts, hiking and painting ceramics. I liked the dreamy vibe and gave him a like. Three days later, he liked me back. He told me he once wanted to be a musician, but family expectations nudged him toward medicine. Now he uses the flexibility of his shifts to blend work with creativity. Keeping to my new rule of being proactive, I suggested we meet at a café. He quickly agreed.
Talking about experiences
I liked him instantly. Bright, attentive, a little shy, and visibly admiring in the way he looked at me. After some banter I asked him why he chose Chyrpe out of all the dating apps out there. “I’m a submissive man and this is the first app where I don’t have to awkwardly explain that to anyone”, he replied. A good answer. From there, the conversation naturally drifted toward what we both wanted in a female-led relationship, how experienced we were with bdsm, and what dynamics we found fulfilling.
When I finally asked what he was curious to try, he looked at me with a soft, almost angelic expression and mentioned pegging. It was bold, honest, and disarmingly cute. I didn’t answer immediately. I just held his gaze a moment longer than usual, then leaned back in my chair with a slow smile he couldn’t misinterpret. “Well,” I said, “that depends entirely on how well you behave on our next date.” His cheeks flushed. He nodded quickly, almost eagerly, as if he’d just been handed a Christmas wish list he was determined to complete.
