In an intimate setting, safety is not a bonus – it is the foundation. No matter your role, preferences, or how intense or exciting things may get, creating a space of safety and respect should always be the top priority.

There is one thing that you always have control over and that is yourself.

There are a few things that you can always keep in mind to ensure a mutually safe space for everyone involved.

Regarding yourself, always know where you are both physically and mentally. Both spaces are essential, and both should feel safe at all times. Be sure that you are not rushing things and check in with both yourself and your partner.

The actions that you are taking should always remain within mutual boundaries. Being carried away by emotions or a moment can happen, but it should always be your objective to ensure that what you are doing aligns with what has been mutually agreed upon. Consent is king – well actually queen.

Your communication should be clear at all times. Communicating in itself is a must, but doing so in a way that leaves no space for interpretation is important. You do not want to harm others, and you should not be harmed. Ask until you are sure.

Sometimes safety is slowing down, sometimes it is saying no and sometimes it is walking away. Never give in to fear of missing out in intimate contexts. You will get another chance, be safe. At heart of any good experience, is mutual respect.

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