Providing a scientific definition is probably not the right move here, so let’s keep it a little more real and casual. Femdom could be neatly summarised as a type of dynamic in which control tends to be centred around the woman or the femme-identifying person. For some it is just a small intimate preference that can switch up the norm with something new and exciting, for others it is an entire dynamic.

While at its core femdom, or female dominance could be considered a form of dominance and submission, how you live this, is entirely up to you. Be playful and casual or try to attach restraints to the corners of your bed, how you approach it should only be defined by the mutual enjoyment of those that it involves.

Don’t worry about fitting into a predefined mold. If you are a woman or femme-identifying and feel a spark of curiosity, just try it, you will never regret finding out more about yourself. Never worry about what others may think when they talk about femdom, you decide what it is to you and if it makes you happy, curious, excited or passionate that is all you need to know.