As an avid social media connoisseur, you can imagine that I’ve heard the gambit of FAQs on dominant livestreams about getting in THE ZONE, being comfortable with yourself and your personality. Many “how do I’s,” “can you help me withs,” and “where do I starts?” I mean… I’ve also watched a Domme instruct a man to kiss his partners feet as an apology on livestream… which was honestly really fun, wow, but we are rabbit holing and getting off topic here.

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All of this is to say that there women who can do what you desire to, so try to work on what may be keeping you from where you know you feel most comfortable. While these questions come in many forms, they often circle the same experiences. So many women are still learning how to say what they want, out loud, and without implied apology.

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Voicing desire can feel… like trudging through the mud. At times its unfamiliarity, more often than not, comes tangled up in layers of social conditioning we did not ask for—but inherited all the same. So try a few of these when a relevant situation arises to get yourself comfortable (in order of tame to… spicier, of course):

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“I want to finish [insert task here].”

“I prefer [insert activity here].”

“This is what works for me.”

“Do you understand?”

“I know.”

“Go get my…”

“Thank me.”

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I’m sure you’ll get the rhythm. These are not commandment-esque phrases. They are, however, a place for you to start and get comfortable in your dynamic. Afterall, you partner is looking to please you, so be sure they do that well ladies.

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