Going on a first date can be daunting. We know this, and that’s why we sat down with hundreds of users who have gone through the experience — to find out what you can do to help make sure things go well! This guide was created with everyone in mind — from women to men — to provide the most helpful and encouraging insights possible. Let’s get into it.
1. How to ask for a date?
Asking for a date can already feel like the first big hurdle. If you matched on Chyrpe, you already know there’s mutual interest — and that’s a great start! Before popping the question, take some time to get to know the other person a little. While Chyrpe is the only dating app that verifies all users, it’s still smart to stay safe — and building a bit of connection first can help with that, too.
If things are going well after a few days of texting, asking for a date is completely reasonable. After all, you met on a dating app — you’re both here for more than just messaging.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, feel confident asking for a date. Our data shows that people who ask with clarity and confidence tend to have the most success. If your message is sincere, it usually works out well.
It can be as simple as: “Natalie, I really enjoy texting with you. Any chance I could invite you out on a date next week?”
Keeping it clear and simple makes everything easier for both of you. You've got this — enjoy your date!
2. First date ideas?
This one can be kept quite simple. According to our research, most successful users didn’t feel that a first date had to be over the top. The most important part is that both of you get the chance to truly get to know one another.
While the movie is a sweet cliché, if there’s no conversation, you still won’t really know who you’re sitting next to.
Good ideas can be:
- Going to a coffee shop together
- Going for a walk in a park or by the water
- Visiting a local museum
We recommend that first dates take place in a public setting. This helps create a mutual feeling of safety and reduces the chance of any uncomfortable situations. The advantage of a coffee, a walk in the park, or a museum visit is also that they’re the right length. If you enjoy each other’s company, feel free to extend it. If you feel like keeping it short the first time around, the activity has a natural ending — no awkward moments, just a nice, comfortable close.
3. How to get ready?
There are four simple steps that we generally recommend.
First, dress appropriately. No need to go overboard. Dress nicely, but in a way that makes you feel comfortable. You’re not there to present a version of yourself that doesn’t exist — you want to impress by showing your best sides.
Secondly, this might go without saying, but great hygiene matters. A person who is clean and smells nice has an easy time being perceived as attractive. Take a shower, shave, if necessary, brush your teeth, and use a little bit of perfume or cologne if that’s your thing. You’re good to go.
Thirdly, there’s usually no need for a hype session in front of the mirror or a shot of the drink in your closet. The person you’re going to meet already likes something about you. Be mentally prepared to have a conversation, but don’t try to be someone you’re not. If they’re the right match, that’s the version of you they’ll fall for.
Finally, there’s nothing wrong with thinking of one or two conversation topics in advance — especially if they’re easy-going and unlikely to make anyone uncomfortable. Coming up with something on the spot can be tricky, and a little preparation is absolutely fine. Most likely, the conversation will start flowing after the first couple of minutes. You’ve got this — you’re going to do great.
4. How to manage expectations?
Going on a date is a lovely thing, and it has the potential to lead to something great. However, don’t send your expectations on a space race with NASA.
Sometimes it takes two or three dates for a spark to ignite. Maybe the first 20 minutes are a little awkward. Maybe you get to enjoy your first kiss — and your aim lets you down.
Sometimes things go a little wrong, and that’s perfectly fine. Dating doesn’t have to be perfect from the first try onward, no matter what some people may have told you. Take your time. Be patient and kind — especially with yourself. Understand that if things don’t immediately click, it’s not all on you.
You are worth loving, and you will succeed. Just give yourself the time and space to let it happen.
5. How to act on a date?
Generally, the answer to this question is: be yourself. But we’ll give you some helpful pointers that came out of our research.
Put your phone away. You’re here for the other person, and they deserve your full attention. By giving someone your focus, you not only help them feel comfortable enough to open up, but you also give yourself a real chance to get to know them. If things don’t work out, be clear and respectful.
Be respectful. This might seem obvious, but it’s worth repeating. You’re meeting a human being, not an object of desire. Treat the other person with care and kindness and do your best to make them feel at ease. Whatever the outcome of the date, you should leave knowing you showed up as the best version of yourself.
Listening is key. Being good at telling a story and sharing about yourself is great — but make sure the other person also gets space to speak. Since you're there to get to know them, try to keep the conversation balanced and listen as much as you talk.
Avoid heavy topics. Of course, you’re free to talk about whatever you like, but we’ve found that the most successful first dates usually steer clear of heavy or overly intimate subjects. Exes, politics, or spicy topics are generally better saved for later — unless it flows naturally and feels right in the moment.
6. Final note on a good impression
First, being genuinely interested in the other person goes a long way. People can tell when you're truly paying attention — and it feels great to be seen.
Second, saying thank you for the date, no matter how it went, is a lovely thing to do — no matter who you are. It shows maturity, kindness, and respect.
Third, humor is always welcome. Most people enjoy a good laugh. Just be mindful of your audience and read the room — a shared laugh can be the best kind of connection.
And finally, follow up with a short, kind message after the date. It might just make the difference you’re hoping for — and whether it leads to a second date or simply leaves things on a high note, it’s always a classy move.
You’ve got everything it takes to make a great impression. Believe in that and have fun out there.
