Speed, instant gratification, and flashy gestures, are what make it easy to forget that the most powerful acts of service often happen intentionally.
For women in the Female-Led Relationships (FLR) scene, these three things are often barriers to building trust, stability, and mutual respect. Today’s theme is attentiveness, so of course, we’ll explore instances of what this could look like/ graduate to as you get used to it.
This isn’t to say that women want men to be completely omniscient, but instead, to accept only to be treated in ways that match their desires.
Anyone partner can always open a woman’s door, but it doesn’t have much meaning as opening the door when they know she’s carrying something. That she can trust he’ll be picking it up before she has to ask, or being capable of doing something without interrupting her flow? That’s the difference between a gesture a man wants attention for, and real service. In an FLR, their timing reflects their attentiveness, and it works for many other things as well.
A better and simply put statement: They’ve created more time for a woman’s attention, or lack thereof (for the ladies who have…men who prefer to be ignored).
Submission isn’t always conditional or relegated to the bedroom. It’s not just something offered to dominant women only when it’s exciting or fulfilling. Women should be able to have a partner who is also present when it’s quiet, steady, and less defined. The ability to move with her, but not ahead of her, is one of the clearest ways to demonstrate maturity. It could be as simple as wanting to take her to her destinations, preparing the meal, or even keeping the toys (or whatever one considers to be playtime things) clean.
Queue that one Rihanna song if you need some help figuring those out.
In this context of FLR or any power exchange dynamic, it can be easy to confuse such things when getting started. A connection should not pressure the woman, it should support them instead. It should reflect the stability a woman is looking for, with of course the unique energy of those she decides to share her time with, and isn’t just being impressed with “good behavior”.
When in doubt, women should ask themselves if they feel pressured or supported by the actions of their partner; as in many cases, those actions will say more about devotion than any rehearsed gesture ever could.
